3 Lessons Learned from My 10 Year Old


This is a completely impromptu post.

When I’m at the gym, I use that time to clear my head. This morning while I was there I was thinking about Mackenzie and how proud I am of her. My thoughts also started to wander, and I tried to contemplate at what point kids go from being polite, well rounded kids to shitty adults. Is there an event that triggers it, or is it based on their environment?

I’m hoping I never have to find out, and that she continues to be the kind hearted, polite, intelligent girl she is today.

But I digress………

I started to think about the lessons that she has taught me in her time on this earth. Does it make me weak that I’m fully admitting that my 10 year old has taught me life lessons? I thought it was supposed to be the other way around????

Even still, here are 3 lessons I’ve learned from my precious daughter:


1. Take Chances:

Last night, she tried out a jazz dance class for the very first time. She knew she was probably going to be the oldest, most inexperienced girl in the class. But she wanted to give it a shot anyway. She walked in to that room with complete confidence that no matter what, she was going to give it her best. When I asked her if she was scared or nervous about not knowing what to do, her response to me was “No mama, I can’t learn if I don’t try”. And you know what? She did awesome. And wants to continue with lessons.

It made me ponder how many opportunities I should have taken, but didn’t because I wasn’t willing to take the chance???


2. Give People the Benefit of the Doubt

The other morning on our way to school, a lady cut me off at an intersection. I couldn’t help myself, I mentioned how rude that was and how it could have caused an accident. Kenzer’s response was “Well mama, maybe she’s late for work and needs to get there before we need to get to the school”.

It made me reflect on the fact that we really never know what someone else is going through! If someone’s having a bad day, perhaps there’s something deeper that they’re trying handle. It reminded me not to be so quick to judge, but rather give some grace to those around me.


3. Don’t Forget to Smell the Roses

Every day is just go, go, GO! Gym, school, work, homework, dinner, chores, etc. Sometimes I feel like I’m barely hanging on by the seat of my pants! Sometimes I feel like I couldn’t possibly take on one more project or task or I’ll go completely nuts. (Alfie like to argue that it’s a short trip – lol)

There are times when Mackenzie takes the most INOPPORTUNE time to tell the longest, drawn out story of a lifetime. Or at the most random moment decides we need to find four leaf clovers, or pick flowers, or color, etc.

But I’ve learned from her that we need to GRASP these moments together. Shit can wait. Time with her can’t. She has taught me that we need to be present in the moment. There’s going to come a time when she won’t want to tell long stories, to pick clovers, or flowers, or color, or cuddle. The time to embrace these moments is NOW. Had she NOT taught this lesson to me, I may have missed out on the previous two lessons above.


Today I’m going to make an effort to look at things through Kenzer’s eyes instead of the eyes of an adult who’s “been around the block” a few times. Things always appear more beautiful through her perspective versus the perspective of being in the world’s rat race pursuing the “American Dream”.

Perhaps that makes me an idealist for the day. It’s a nice change from the realist approach we grown ups often take.


What about you- Are you more of a realist or idealist? Have you ever uncovered a life lesson from small moments with a child?


  1. says

    I absolutely love this post and what it means to me in my life right now. I have an 11 year old son and watching him is a constant reminder that I have to be the best example I can be. I don’t want him to grow up and think mediocrity is okay because all he had was a mediocre mom! Thanks for sharing
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  2. says

    All wonderful life lessons! I’m the same as you with low patience usually, zero time to stop and relax & not taking enough chances. Ship Mackenzie down here for a week and let me borrow her 10 year old wisdom :)