I always try to stress to Kenzer the meaning of being a leader and not a follower. I think it’s important as she heads in to these tween years that I continue to stress the importance of leadership. I feel like it will help her self-confidence during these times of change.
It’s exactly what motivates me to lead by example for her. I can’t talk the talk if I don’t walk the walk.
Just the other day, there was an instance (I’ll refrain from the details) where she was out of line, and in the midst of my anger, I took away one of her prized possessions as a consequence of her actions. It later occurred to me that perhaps the “punishment” was a little bit harsher than the “crime”.
I knew I wanted to take back the punishment, but I also couldn’t appear to be a push over either— otherwise the lesson may not be learned.
I sat her down, and began a discussion about leadership. She stated that sometimes she’s afraid to be the leader because “What if I’m wrong, Mama?” Wise words from my baby girl.
This was the PERFECT segue in to what I was about to say!
I told her that sometimes, the sign of a true leader is having the ability to 1. Admit when you’re wrong, 2. Admit when you don’t know something and 3. Admitting your weaknesses and eagerness to learn from others.
I told her that, as her Mama, I try every day to lead by example, and part of that is admitting when I’m wrong also! I returned her prized possession that day, admitted my error, and we discussed a more fitting punishment. All is well, and we both taught each other a life lesson. It truly was a win win!
On Friday, I told you I have an announcement to make. It’s not an overly huge announcement, but it’s definitely me admitting I am weak and need someone’s guidance!
From childhood until just a few years ago, I’ve had family members call me fat. It started with my step-mom, and then my aunt, and most recently my future sister-in-law. Let me tell you people—WORDS HURT. They become ingrained in your very fibers, and are extremely hard to shake!
I’ve also had people compliment me on how great I look, and come to me looking for guidance, which really is what started this blog in the first place!! But rather than focusing on the positives, I allowed the negatives to be ever present.
I’ve been noticing over the past year that no matter how much I run or lift and how little or big I ate, I wasn’t making ANY strides in my body composition. I also noticed that rather than my run times IMPROVING, they’ve at times become worse.
It was time to admit I needed HELP!!! Soooo, I’ve officially started working with a fitness coach! Our first day starts TODAY.
I’ve been researching coaches for a while, and finally settled on Julie Michaelson! I loved her story (she’s independent, self made, and a single mommy of 4!), and her no bullshit approach. She’s not afraid to tell you like it is. I’ve followed her on Instagram for a while until I finally saw she was taking on new clients.
We’ve been in communication pretty much daily, and I just love her! She helped me realize that I need to eat MORE. If I’m going to be running like I do, I can’t continue to sustain myself by eating like a bird. It’s actually become detrimental to my metabolism, and my body has been holding on to fat because of it. Not only that, but I’m most likely LOSING muscle due to my poor nutrition! I’ve been eating several times a day for quite some time now, and it’s always been clean for the most part, but it hasn’t been nearly enough.
Seeing the amount she wants me to eat for a day scares the shit out of (If I’m being honest). But I have faith in her process.
I knew something had to give, and we are never as objective with ourselves as we need to be. So I’ve now handed it off to Julie! I’m looking forward to feeling better!